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2018   **unless otherwise scheduled, meetings will be at Melissa's  

Birthdays this Month

January 8, 2018 11:30am through 3:30pm Melissa Thornton** January 15   Jane Cheema
February 12, 2018 11:30am through 3:30pm Melissa Thornton**  
March 16, 2018 11:30am through 3:30pm Melissa Thornton**  
April 9, 2018 11:30am through 3:30pm Melissa Thornton** April 26  Melissa Thornton
May 14, 2018 11:30am through 3:30pm Jane Cheema  
June 11, 2018 11:30am through 3:30pm Melissa Thornton** June 18   Kathleen Billis
July 16, 2018 11:30am through 3:30pm Melissa Thornton** July 27   Polly Steadman
August 13, 2018 11:30am through 3:30pm Melissa Thornton**  
September 9, 2018 11:30am through 3:30pm Melissa Thornton**  
October 8, 2018 11:30am through 3:30pm Melissa Thornton** October 23   Judy Milinowski
November 12, 2018 11:30am through 3:30pm Melissa Thornton**  
December 10, 2018 11:30am through 3:30pm Judy Milinowski  















How to Practice Ho’oponopono in Four Simple Steps

Have you heard of the Hawaiian therapist who cured an entire ward of criminally insane patients, without ever meeting any of them or spending a moment in the same room? It’s not a joke. The therapist was Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. He reviewed each of the patients’ files, and then he healed them by healing himself. The amazing results seem like a miracle, but then miracles do happen when you use Ho’oponopono, or Dr. Len’s updated version called Self I-Dentity Through Ho’oponopono (SITH). I had the pleasure of attending one of his lectures a few years ago and started practicing Ho’oponopono immediately. The results are often astounding. Do you need a miracle?

What you might wish to understand is how this can possibly work. How can you heal yourself and have it heal others? How can you even heal yourself?

Why would it affect anything “out there”? The secret is there is no such thing as “out there” – everything happens to you in your mind. Everything you see, everything you hear, every person you meet, you experience in your mind. You only think it’s “out there” and you think that absolves you of responsibility. In fact it’s quite the opposite: you are responsible for everything you think, and everything that comes to your attention. If you watch the news, everything you hear on the news is your responsibility. That sounds harsh, but it means that you are also able to clear it, clean it, and through forgiveness change it.

There are four simple steps to this method, and the order is not that important. Repentance, Forgiveness, Gratitude and Love are the only forces at work – but these forces have amazing power.

The best part of the updated version of Ho’oponopono is you can do it yourself, you don’t need anyone else to be there, you don’t need anyone to hear you. You can “say” the words in your head. The power is in the feeling and in the willingness of the Universe to forgive and love.

Step 1: Repentance – I’M SORRY

As I mention above, you are responsible for everything in your mind, even if it seems to be “out there.” Once you realize that, it’s very natural to feel sorry. I know I sure do. If I hear of a tornado, I am so full of remorse that something in my consciousness has created that idea. I’m so very sorry that someone I know has a broken bone that I realize I have caused.

This realization can be painful, and you will likely resist accepting responsibility for the “out there” kind of problems until you start to practice this method on your more obvious “in here” problems and see results.

So choose something that you already know you’ve caused for yourself? Over-weight? Addicted to nicotine, alcohol or some other substance? Do you have anger issues? Health problems? Start there and say you’re sorry. That’s the whole step: I’M SORRY. Although I think it is more powerful if you say it more clearly: “I realize that I am responsible for the (issue) in my life and I feel terrible remorse that something in my consciousness has caused this.”

Step 2: Ask Forgiveness – PLEASE FORGIVE ME

Don’t worry about who you’re asking. Just ask! PLEASE FORGIVE ME. Say it over and over. Mean it. Remember your remorse from step 1 as you ask to be forgiven.

Step 3: Gratitude – THANK YOU

Say “THANK YOU” – again it doesn’t really matter who or what you’re thanking. Thank your body for all it does for you. Thank yourself for being the best you can be. Thank God. Thank the Universe. Thank whatever it was that just forgave you. Just keep saying THANK YOU.

Step 4: Love – I LOVE YOU

This can also be step 1. Say I LOVE YOU. Say it to your body, say it to God. Say I LOVE YOU to the air you breathe, to the house that shelters you. Say I LOVE YOU to your challenges. Say it over and over. Mean it. Feel it. There is nothing as powerful as Love.

That’s it. The whole practice in a nutshell. Simple and amazingly effective.




November 2, 2015

Hello darling Sassies,

What an honor it was to have you at my place again yesterday...and what a transformative meeting! 

Thanks so much for coming...thanks for sharing your deeper thoughts....thanks for committing to return to the group.
I love your follow-up comments too. 

This is a powerful group...of remarkable, strong women...with strong beliefs, thoughts, feelings and needs. And I believe that it's a group with a highly developed sense of trust for one another. Which is why, I think, we are standing at the threshold of 'fertile new beginnings'..together.

I promised I'd attempt to summarize our agreements and here goes. Please help adjust the thoughts as you will. 

1. We agreed that we all have busy lives and have lots of opportunities for using that time to be with friends/family/work/projects, etc. We have chosen to share this precious time with this Sassy Sisters group because it's been a 'juicy', uplifting and fulfilling experience....more often than not...for three years...or is it four? 

2. We also agreed that we are a support group for one another, but that we don't offer each other 'professional' services....rather, we offer each other compassion and love...and we offer each other feedback, suggestions and life experience. 

3. There were several comments about our focus/time being more on physical challenges lately, rather than more universal life challenges, and we agreed that we'll broaden the focus to support all sisters equally, in all ways and on all subjects...and we'll do that by assuring that each sister gets an equal amount of time with the 'talking stick', during which she may speak about whatever she likes, to whatever depth she wishes to go...personal or other focus. The other sisters may chime in, but the sister with the talking stick can take the discussion back under her control. Any sister who feels she needs more time can simply ask for it as she needs it. 

4. And we agreed that a major part of our time would be focussed on spiritual growth. Specifically:

a. We agreed that we formed this group as an outgrowth of a healing, positive, spiritual retreat. We agreed that we wish to have that focus continue as the major goal of each gathering. (socializing, sharing food and getting caught up on local events are all important, but will take less time and focus in future.)

b. We agreed that we have been happily dependent on the celestial Sassies and Judy as our channel for a long time...and that we will each step up to share the responsibility of bringing spiritual focus to the future meetings. To this end, we will take turns in choosing a theme and sending related quotes/readings/etc. to all the group members...during the month between meetings. And whoever is in charge of a particular meeting theme will bring materials to lead the group in experience and discussion based on that theme. 

c. The celestial Sassies will always be honored and when Judy can attend, we will include channeling them, but we will have spirit-related themes for other times. 

d. We will continue to follow the Sassies' directive to meet as close to once every month as our schedules allow. And we will email updates to the group more regularly during the weeks, as we have life developments. All Sassies will attempt to check email regularly. 

That's what I remember. Please add your thoughts/memories.

Love, light and laughter to you all!!!